Guest Post – 5 Rules for Dating With a Beard

Guest Blog 5 Rules For Dating With a Beard

Having a beard can make you look a lot more masculine. A beard also puts you into a dating niche that can work in your favour. There are many misconceptions surrounding men’s facial hair and women’s desires, but the bottom line is that beards can be sexy and a great asset to your personal style.

When you are dating, use these 5 rules to make sure your beard works for you.

Women Love Beards

There is a lot of mixed information when it comes to women’s beard preferences, but almost half of women like kissing men with beards. However less than 30% of men grow beards, so straight away by growing a beard the odds are on your side.

Confidence is really important when it comes to dating, and you need to see your beard as a big part of who you are. Do that and all the other rules are going to be a lot easier to follow.

Rule #1: Wear your beard with pride and confidence.

Keep It Together

Growing a beard is about a lot more than just letting your facial hair grow out. There used to be a whole industry dedicated to male facial hair in days gone by, and although it’s taken it’s time that industry is making a comeback.

If you want to have a strokeable beard, you need to put in the work. You’ll be needing a beard comb, some good clippers for maintenance among other things, and a daily beardcare ritual to top it off.

On top of styling and maintenance you’ll want to be keeping an eye out for stray bits of food – it happens, we all know it. No one wants to kiss a beard with food stuck in it!

Rule #2: Daily beard maintenance is a must!

Plan Your Beard Out

Much in the same way a person thinks about a hairstyle as a part of their fashion, a bearded man must look at his facial hair as a part of his overall style.

Whilst it might sound fun and easy to just grow out a great big bushy beard, with a huge greased up handlebar mustache, you might find that some people would prefer to be seen with someone well groomed. Your beard needs to fit with your partner’s style, as much as your own.

A great way to approach this is to make sure that your beard is a good fit for your face. There are a lot of great options for beard styles, and you will have no problem finding one that fits you perfectly. You might have to do a bit of experimenting with styles to start off, depending on how your beard grows.

It’s important to have a purpose, don’t just let a beard happen. Grow it with intention, groom it, style it, shape it.

Struggling to come up with a style of your own? Most high-street barbers will cater to beards these days, so why not ask their opinion?

Rule #3: Have a vision for your beard and make it happen. 

Maintenance!

Planning to keep that beard for a while? You’ll have to keep it in good shape! Which means buying quality shampooing and conditioning products.

The way you treat your facial hair is going to make a huge difference in how it feels to the touch and one of the biggest things that people love about beards is running their fingers through them.

If you don’t take care of your beard hair, it isn’t going to look right, nor will it feel great in your girlfriend’s hands.

Rule #4: Buy and use great hair care products on your beard.

Asset v. Liability

Your beard can be a big turn-on or a big turn-off, depending on how well you take care of it. So you have to make sure your beard is an asset that works for you, and not a liability.

If you’ve followed rules 1-4, then you’re beard’s going to be in a great place. But you’ve got to keep up that personal discipline, to keep that beard game strong.

Don’t be put off by the occasional off comment from your girlfriend either, no beard is going to be loved by a woman in the same way you love it.

Don’t be too put off by the occasional but of constructive criticism on your beard either, especially not from your partner (they’re going to be seeing it most regularly after all!). No one’s going to love your beard the way you do, so an outside opinion can sometimes help.

Rule #5: Love your beard and make it an asset that works for you.


This article was written by guest blogger, Victor Bertoni and edited by Bristlr’s Content and Community Manager Samuel Alexander.

Bristlr on Dating Advice

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Head on over to Dating Advice because Bristlr is being featured!

If you want to delve more in to our story, right from the roots, head on over and have a read.

Here’s the short version of the wonderful things Dating Advice had to say about us:

When it comes to scruff, some daters can’t get enough. For beard-wearers and beard-lovers everywhere, Bristlr has cultivated a niche dating network of hundreds of thousands of singles. These people come together in mutual admiration for a whiskered chin. You register by answering the oh-so-important question: “Do you have a beard?” No need to state your gender or fill out a lengthy bio — singles can immediately start rating beards and messaging users for free. Begun in 2014 as a joke, Bristlr connects men with facial hair to dates who love tickling kisses. Today, fun-loving singles worldwide seek love and relationships in this quirky network.

Be sure to read the whole article! You can learn all about our founder, our success stories and all about our team!

Thanks for the shout out Dating Advice!

A Bristlr Success Story – Jenna & Chad

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Did you know that on average Bristlr causes at least one wedding (that we know of) per month? Totally legitimate statistics for you right there!

This month we’re both proud and delighted to announce the engagement of Jenna & Chad! Congratulations!

In a twist on our success stories, Jenna’s best friend Katy approached us with the story. So, surprise Jenna! You’re on Bristlr again!

In fact, it’s thanks to Katy that Jenna found her way on to Bristlr:

I made her Bristlr profile for her as a joke – I made her profile exactly what I thought people with beards would love “oh I love tacos, I love whiskey, I love biking…” and it really attracted these bearded guys!

It’s great when jokes turn in to amazing things, right (remember how Bristlr itself started out as a joke? Oh, the fun we’ve had)?

Although Jenna was skeptical at first, it didn’t take long for Chad to make himself know. A first date was arranged and after, as we’re told, a lot of making out later (well, who can resist a good beard like that?) Jenna and Chad became a happy couple!

Five months down the line in Hawaii, Jenna and Chad became engaged! Though Chad knew he wanted to propose after just two weeks together. The happy couple now share a beautiful home in Chicago and will be married after about a year of being together.

We couldn’t be happier for Jenna and Chad, we wish you all the best in the future. We’re delighted to have heard and shared your heart warming story.

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A Bristlr Success Story – Reinier & Emma

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We’ve had another heartwarming success on Bristlr! An unlikely match between Reinier in the Netherlands and Emma in Australia, and we couldn’t be happier.

Here’s Reinier’s story:

“After being an enthusiastic Bristlr user for a couple of months I matched with the most beautiful girl in Australia. Being Dutch myself I just thought “some lucky bastard is going to be her man some day.”

Thankfully she remained interested and we kept chatting. Not long after that we exchanged numbers and started calling each other every day. We called each other for hours on end, our longest call lasting for about 15 hours straight.

It didn’t take long to discuss the elephant in the room; namely the 14000 km between us…

She offered to come visit me around Easter and we were happy and excited! Unfortunately something came up at her work so she couldn’t make it. We had to reschedule for July.

Truth be told, I couldn’t wait that long and risk some bloke coming in and sweeping her, so I decided to take the plunge and go Down Under myself.

We booked my tickets while calling and the countdown timers were set for April 15th. The nerves didn’t set in until I was cleared by Australian Customs and the only thing standing in our way was a door leading out to the arrivals hall.”

Emma was delighted to finally meet Reinier:

“As soon as I saw him, I knew it was right. It was as if the missing pieces had fallen into place. I knew then and know now that he is the only man for me.

We have spent two amazing weeks together, although he wasn’t the biggest fan of the Gnomesville forest!

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I’ll be counting the days until we are together again; this time for good. Thanks Bristlr for helping us find each other!”

Reinier’s got some preparation before the pair can be together permanently:

“All that’s left for me  to do now is go back to the Netherlands and start wrapping things up with work and sell my house. The next plane ticket I buy will be one-way to Perth. Without Bristlr we would’ve never found each other across the globe, so you guys can take all the credit for this one!

Lots of love and gratitude, Emma & Reinier.”

We couldn’t be happier for you and we wish you nothing but joy. We’re so happy to have brought the two of your together, especially from so far away!

All the best from Bristlr!

A Bristlr Success Story – Jacquelynn and Luke

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Untitled-3Another message another success story! This week we’ve been contacted via Facebook by Jacquelynn to thank us for uniting her with fiance Luke.

Jacquelynn shared the story of how she and Luke met, and I was touched. It’s always wonderful to hear that Bristlr has united two happy people.

So, to thank Jacquelynn and Luke for sharing their heartwarming story with me, I’m delighted to share their story with you.

‘When I first messaged Luke neither of us thought it would go quite so far – but that’s what made it so much more special.

We weren’t pushy or too forward, we wound up having long, philosophical discussions, and related on levels much deeper than just general interests. I mean, you get a lot of messages like, “Nice tattoos! Nice beard! Awesome music taste!” So it’s a breath of fresh air to discuss more.

So after a week of messaging on Bristlr we exchanged numbers and we met up in Brooklyn for our first date. We were both nervous but we broke through that initial awkwardness and it was like we were best friends for years. We had great food and came back to his place and played some Skyrim.

After that we took a lot of trips out, and he’d use the excuse of the crowded city to hold my hand. He’s a foot taller than me, so I’m a bit easy to lose!

We decided on New Year’s eve a year ago to seal the deal. He was my first kiss of that year, and now he will always be for the rest of my years!

I stayed with him in Brooklyn for a little while until we both decided to officially move in with one another. We started over brand new with one another.

When I first told my parents that this was the man I was going to marry, my mother almost choked on her drink! She never thought she’d hear those words from me. Even I was taken by surprised, I never thought I’d say the words myself. But when you know, you know!

Luke plays roller derby, so he likes to teach me how to skate. I’m a huge music fan and play guitar so I always like to introduce him to new music, and give him musical advice.

We love spending time together (with our cat too!), playing video games and reading graphic novels. We also love to go out on adventures!

He’s my best friend, my partner and we are each others’ rocks. Not a day goes by without us expressing our appreciation for each other.

We’ve decided to get married September 30th, this year. We’re having a Pagan/Wiccan handfasting on a beach in NY, and we’re looking forward to spending the rest of our days together! All thanks to Bristlr. Cheers!!’

A beautiful story, and we’ve been delighted to share it! We wish you nothing but the best Jacquelynn and Luke!

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How to Prepare For Your First Bristlr Date

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There is no denying, first dates are nerve-wracking!

You’re hoping to make the right impression and the panic has started to set it. What to wear?  Your favourite jumper that’s so old but oh so comfy (come on, we all have one), just won’t cut it!

But don’t worry, Allcures are here to save the day (or date) with our winning tips on how to prepare for your first Bristlr date:

 

Confirm your plans

First things first, you need to contact your date and confirm your plans.

Miscommunication could mean you turn up to the wrong venue, or have to awkwardly finish off the two glasses of wine you ordered for yourself and your no-show date. Don’t be that person!

Sending a simple message across Bristlr to confirm the location and time will ensure things run smoothly, and let your date know you’re still interested.

Take another look around their Bristlr profile

Give their Bristlr profile another look. This will make certain you remember their name and you can look out for a conversation piece to get your date started.

Do you both share common interests? Has your date been away for the weekend? Preparing some conversation starters can help to boost your confidence and avoid having to talk about the weather to fill those dreaded awkward silences.

We all know no one wants to talk about the weather!

If you’re a proud beard owner

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The stress of shaving may be long gone, but grooming is still vitally important to impress your date. Your beard needs to look impressive; after all, Bristlr is all about connecting you with fellow beard lovers!

We recommend you give your beard a trim and maybe even get a fresh hair cut to ensure it looks sharp and clean. Beard oils will keep your beard looking healthy and smelling great. Take a look at Bristlr’s simple and inexpensive beard oil remedy that you can make yourself at home!

If you don’t have a beard

Feeling good is a much-needed confidence boost on a first date. So, spend a little extra time pampering yourself to ensure you look and feel your best.

Moisturising and exfoliating your skin will leave it looking fresh, rejuvenated and date-ready!

Pick out your favourite fragrance, and if you wear makeup add a splash of colour to your lips and cheeks.

If you’re feeling brave, try out a new hair style. Switching up your look can give you a confidence boost that is sure to charm your date.

Choose the right outfit

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When it comes to choosing an outfit, we often face a dilemma. Is this outfit dressy enough? Is this too much?  Many of us worry that our outfit choice could ruin our chances of a second date.

It is important to choose an outfit that will make you feel great, but provides comfort. Firstly, take the location of your date into consideration.

Are you going for a sophisticated dinner? If so, a smart shirt and trousers or a classy dress would be suitable. However, if the date is more casual, throw on your favourite top and jeans for style and comfort.

Accessorising with a statement item of jewellery or a stylish accessory will add the finishing touches to your outfit.

Don’t panic, you’re good to go!

Our most important tip is to remain calm; a date should be fun not stressful. Following Allcures simple tips will ensure you are fully prepared to wow your date with your confident attitude and/or jaw-dropping beard! Good luck and enjoy yourself!

Beards and sunglasses

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You won’t believe what the latest beard trend is…

Ever since we asked for your help with our Instagram feed we’ve barely had chance to come up to breathe for the sea of submission requests. This is a good thing – you’ve all got wonderful beards and we’re more than delighted to have them featured on our page.

However, there’s one trend that’s really stood out for us – beards and sunglasses.

‘Tis the season.

We really think this could be the next big thing.

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We even made an Unofficial International Beards and Sunglasses Day.

But we need your help…

We need to make IBASD an official day.

So if you want to see International Beards and Sunglasses Day in your 2016 calendar…

You know what to do (and in case you don’t, that means keep sending in your beards and sunglasses pictures).

A Bristlr Success Story – Clint & Jennifer

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Not one week after our last success story, we’ve had another wonderful couple come forward to thank us after they met on Bristlr. Say hello to Clint and Jennifer!

unnamed“Jennifer and I have a bit of a unique story. Jennifer’s friend had told her about Brisltr, so she decided to join up. I was already a member at the time, looking for that special beard lover. I spotted her on the site and got in touch.

Nearly a year later we’re still together, thanks to Bristlr! We’ve even started a business together in the beard industry! We’ve formed an LLC called Templar Beard Company selling beard oils and other beard products. 

Bristlr, we thank you for the love we found – without you our paths would have never crossed.” 

Awwwww! That last bit has just made our week, thank you Clint and Jennifer! We wish you nothing but success with your relationship and Templar Beard Company!

And whilst we’re on the subject, are you looking for quality beard care products? Why not visit Templar Beard Company? We’ll be sampling their products soon!

All the best to your, Clint and Jennifer!

A Bristlr Success Story – Pieter & Rianne

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We’ve had another one of those lovely e-mails. That’s right, another success story to make your feel all warm and bristly inside! This story comes from Pieter and Rianne. Pieter was also kind enough to help us translate our GooglePlay description in to Dutch – now that’s gratitude! So for our Dutch fans, you know who to thank!

Here’s Pieter’s story:

“I was at the gym with a good friend and he told me about this app called Bristlr – an app for bearded people to find others the liked beards. That sounded pretty cool to me, so a few weeks later I decided to download it (after a lot of persuasion from my friend!).

Bristlr’s kind of like Tinder, but the people on there are much more fun! I chatted to a few people and made some connections. It’s cool to be able to talk to so many like minded people! Awesome stuff!

After some time I met a girl. We kept talking for a while and she seemed really interested – you know how dating apps can be, usually the guy shows interest first. We eventually swapped numbers and eventually we went on our fist date. Now, she’s my girlfriend!”

Rianne has her own side to the story:

“I’d used a few dating apps and been on a few dates, but none of that seemed right for me. Then on Facebook I saw something; an app that had lots of men with beards!

So, I joined Bristlr. I could tell instantly it was different; I had actual conversations! With bearded guys! And they weren’t all just obsessed with one thing …

After a while of browsing and chatting someone new popped up. It had been a while so I was starting to give up hope on a nice date, but we talked and talked. I thought, ‘heck, let’s try it!’

Now you can see for yourself, we’re happy!”

How sweet is that? Everyone at Bristlr wishes you both all of the happiness!

Bristlr, bringing people together.

Celebrating Bristlr!

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Did you know that the idea that grew into the Bristlr you know and love happened exactly a year ago today? Now you do!

Just a few weeks after the idea was born, Bristlr officially launched. Since then with the help of you beard lovers out there we’ve grown in to much more than just an idea.

Just for fun, here’s a list of the names that were thrown in to the hat before Bristlr became Bristlr:

  • BeardWithFriends
  • BeardTouchingExchange
  • BeardX
  • XBeard
  • StrokeBeardToUnlock
  • ToBeard
  • NiceBeard
  • StrokeMyBeard
  • EveningBeard
  • ToBeardOrNotToBeard.com

Aren’t you glad we went with “Bristlr”?

In less than a year we’ve had countless success stories, in total making half a million matches, our big #BareYourBeard competition which made some beard owners very happy (and popular!), we’ve had international press coverage and recognition, been through Europe’s best pre-seed start-up accelerator, and we even had a party to celebrate 100,000 Bristlr users. We’ve come a long way, and are continuing to grow from strength to strength.

So, with our birthday coming up this month we’ve certainly got a lot to celebrate! That’s right, if we’ve learned one thing this past year, it’s knowing when to party.

But what kind of party would it be without guests? If it weren’t for our beard fans, we wouldn’t be here today. So we want to invite you to our year-and-a-day party to say thanks. Free up your Saturday 24th this month and come on down to Manchester’s SpaceportX, we’re throwing a party!

To get in, just mark yourself as attending on our Facebook event. See you there!

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From an idea to an app, competitions to parties and plenty of Instagram loving! We’ve come a long way!