Bristlr on Dating Advice

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Head on over to Dating Advice because Bristlr is being featured!

If you want to delve more in to our story, right from the roots, head on over and have a read.

Here’s the short version of the wonderful things Dating Advice had to say about us:

When it comes to scruff, some daters can’t get enough. For beard-wearers and beard-lovers everywhere, Bristlr has cultivated a niche dating network of hundreds of thousands of singles. These people come together in mutual admiration for a whiskered chin. You register by answering the oh-so-important question: “Do you have a beard?” No need to state your gender or fill out a lengthy bio — singles can immediately start rating beards and messaging users for free. Begun in 2014 as a joke, Bristlr connects men with facial hair to dates who love tickling kisses. Today, fun-loving singles worldwide seek love and relationships in this quirky network.

Be sure to read the whole article! You can learn all about our founder, our success stories and all about our team!

Thanks for the shout out Dating Advice!

Beard Elitism #DontDoIt

Beard Elitism

It sounds like a joke, right? But it’s not.

Let’s not pretend we haven’t all seen posts on social media about beards, THEY’RE EVERYWHERE! And some of them aren’t too friendly. I’m not saying we need wrapping in cotton wool, or big bushy beards. But as individuals we can do something to make the world a better place to live in…and be less horrible on social media.

Okay, so lets talk Beard Elitism – it sucks. So much.

Do you remember when you first started growing a beard? When you fell in love with the hair growing out of your face? It was great, right? Then the trend on social media set in (which we at Bristlr have a lot to thank for, really).

Some of you will have stuck to your guns, you had a beard and you loved it. Some of you decided to back out and get rid of the beard, because trends can be a pain to keep up with, which is entirely your prerogative. But then there was heat from both sides for some of the more folicly challenged, and it was kind of unfair.

First, lets look in to the things that affect beard growth.

Genetics! Literally beyond anyone’s control. So what if someone can’t grow a beard because of their genes? Maybe they didn’t want one in the first place. Leave ’em be. “Supplements,” you say? Yeah, have fun with those side effects…

Stress! A good diet and plenty of sleep help out a lot with beard growth. So when someone’s particularly stressed and struggling to do either of those things, it’s going to have an effect on their beard. You’re going to kick someone when they’re down by berating the beard that in your eyes isn’t good enough? Feel good about yourself? You shouldn’t.

Exercise! Some of us are just too damn busy, and hitting the gym after a long day at work isn’t always top of the priority list. So cut us some slack and take your opinions elsewhere.

Those are just three things, and they’re all sort of beyond control. Notice how I put genetics top of the list though? No one can control that, not even you, with your opinions.

It might seem like I’m getting a little irritable, right? Here’s the thing – I’m fairly lucky. Despite being plagued with mental health issues (things just got personal up in here), having very little time to exercise and, let’s be honest, a terrible diet, I’m somehow blessed with (what many would consider) a “pretty good” beard. Genetics. Despite that, every now and then someone will happily point out that my beard’s looking whispy, a bit thin or a little patchy.

First off, thanks, that makes me feel great. Second, why did you have to say anything anyway? Third, remember that bit about mental health issues and kicking someone when they’re down? Yeah. You just did all that. And I didn’t even ask for an opinion. Go you.

You can say I’m taking this a little too seriously, but let’s be honest if you’re going out of your way to upset people, you need to have a word with yourself.

It’s not just beards either – all over social media people are commenting on all aspects of other peoples’ bodies. Like it’s their right to tell someone else how they should look. It isn’t.

We’re all about the beards here at Bristlr. So we do what we do to keep the beard community happy, whatever the shape, size and thickness of their beards. But that doesn’t mean we don’t care about everyone else! So, we say; Beard Elitism #DontDoIt. But lets lay off on judging people for their bodies and they way they present themselves.  Whether you have a big, bushy beard, or a little bit of bristle, you do you, and let others’ do the same.

#BristlrPride Winners

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We have our winners!

While we had some fabulous entries, we managed to narrow it down to our three winners in each category!

Taking home the Rainbow Beard category is:

It might not be a rainbow, but it’s a wonderful colour and we truly admired the creativity! You’re a winner!

Category is… GLITTER BEARD! And our winner is:

A beautiful, glittery look! Condragulations, you’re a winner, baby!

And our final category, with the most entries (so well done, you!), the standard beard winner is…

Beardy, beautiful, what’s not to love! Congratulations, you’ve done it!

Well done to our three competition winners! We will be in touch to sort out your prizes!

A huge thank you to everyone that entered the competition and to Totem Wolf for supplying the prizes!

Until next time, #HappyPride!

 

 

Post Pride Celebrations at Bristlr

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It’s officially the end of EuroPride month, but that doesn’t mean we can’t still be proud! So we’ll be carrying on with our Queer Beard Questions series as we find more people to speak to. So if you want to get involved, get in touch!

In addition, our #BristlrPride competition is STILL running! It’s been a busy Pride month, and we know (from experience) that when you’re caught up in the moment it can be tricky to do things like enter competitions with amazing prizes. So we’ll be accepting entries for the first week of September!

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We’ve already had some fabulous entries, just take a look below!

#bristlrpride #europride2016 #thessalonikipride

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Just look at that beard of Pride! 

#bristlrpride #beards #manchesterpride

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All those beards, practically beaming with Pride!!

Lost at Pride @manchesterpride #manchesterpride #pride #beard #lgbt #bristlrpride #streetparty

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That’s a face of pure pride right there! 

And that’s just some of them!

Thanks to the support of our amazing friends at Totem Wolf, Bristlr was able to actually attend Manchester Pride this year. Albeit on a small scale (just me!), but what an experience was had! Next year, we’re thinking Bristlr Pride float! Fingers crossed…

We saw some pretty amazing beards…

And reconnected with some old friends! Remember our #BareYourBeard runner up here? 

We even had the pleasure of meeting the handsome guys at Moody Bear

…and couldn’t resist getting some of their merch. Hopefully this won’t be the last we hear from them!

This is the personal bit – the most important part for me was attending the vigil on the final day of Manchester Pride. With so many attacks on the LGBTQ community in recent months, a community that I am proudly a part of, I wanted to show solidarity in the face of adversity. A truly humbling and moving experience.

Manchester Pride Vigil
Photo credit – Glenn Jones

So thank you to everyone that has shown their support in joining in with Pride and helping Bristlr celebrate, whether you entered the competition, spread the word, helped us raise awareness or helped us actually attend a Pride celebration ourselves (Thanks again, Totem Wolf!)! It’s been an enjoyable month for us at Bristlr, and we were proud to take part!

Don’t think it’s over though, the team at Bristlr will strive to always raise awareness for our fellow LGBTQ community all year around! So as always, watch this space for exciting things to come.

Queer Beard Questions – Andy Beard

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Euro Pride month is almost over, but that doesn’t mean we can’t continue to raise awareness of the minorities within our bearded community. For our second in the series of Queer Beard Questions we’ve tracked down another beardy drag artist, Andy Beard down in London, UK. Check out the flawless artistry…

Here’s what they had to say about beards, drag and gender identity.


-What does drag mean to you?

Isn’t everything drag, some aesthetic choices are less “interesting” than others, but we’re all dressing up to fit some ideal regardless of how understated that is. To me everything is drag- from leather clad Muscle bears to queens with the highest hair and drowning in sequins. It’s all dress up.


-What do beards mean to you?

After 10 years of having a beard it’s pretty ingrained in my sense of identity- facial topiary isn’t a prerequisite when it comes to attractiveness but you’ve gotta love a nice hairy dude.


-What statement are you trying to make by mixing drag and beards?

Just because I’ve embraced my genetic predominance to being hirsute I don’t feel I should neglect my ability to embrace and radiate femininity, it’s powerful and courageous to explore all facets of yourself – I don’t feel I’m making a statement about a clash of gender so much as how a balance can be struck. These things shouldn’t be mutually exclusive.  #mascandmascara


-How do you feel about recent acknowledgements of different gender identities?

It’s too little too late, humanity’s obsession with classification is so overwhelmingly stifling. Who we are is much more than the corporeal form we inhabit, you should never limit yourself to such a small definition.


-What would you say to someone that sees beards as a “men only” zone and would force us in to little gender boxes?

I think it’s a real pity, but at the end of the day small mindedness only clips it’s own wings. Beards are for anyone who can grow them, masc or femme, male or female and the vast spectrum between.


-What words of wisdom and inspiration would you impart to anyone struggling with their idea of gender and how to present themselves?

Self hatred and despair are very easy to give in to. In a world where even our own small subculture is so cannibalistic, in terms of how we compartmentalise what is acceptable and what isn’t. I urge you sincerely to resist the temptation to become more generic and risk not fully realising your own identity. You are so much more than the body you own, start taking care of your mental well-being and the rest will follow.

You hear that? Beards are for anyone, so don’t let people put you in a box. Even if you don’t want a beard of your own, don’t let the small mindedness of other’s restrict your from being the person you want to be.

Thanks so much to the wonderful Andy Beard for these words of wisdom!

Queer Beard Questions – Ruby Rawbone

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With Pride Season in full swing, we’re making a whole series of Queer Beard Questions! We’ll be seeking out various queer beards to question them on their thoughts on beards, their own expression of gender and gender identities and the progress we, the LGBTQ community, have made over the years.

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Our first interview is with a good friend of ours, Ruby Rawbone (AKA Ross), a beautiful, beardy BABE of a drag queen based in Bristol. Here’s what they had to say:

What does drag mean to you?
Drag to me means that I can be whatever I want to, Its a beautiful and varied art form. Drag is an expression, a movement, a performance.
Drag Kings and Queens have been an integral part of the LGBTQ community and have been the key to so many successful equality movements. The art form has been around for centuries and continue to grow everyday. There are so many sub cultures within the drag community, which is a sub culture itself. It just shows how varied the art form is and to be part of something so wonderful is nothing short of an honour. Standing on stage at Bristol pride was a highlight of Ruby’s life so far and to receive the love and support that I did it made the 6am start worthwhile.
What do beards mean to you?
Beards have historically been a sign of status and masculinity. You just have to look at history and portraits to understand that… However it is very much not the case in this day and age. It is a look and they come in all shapes, sizes and colours. They are used as  a sign of expression, blue beards being my favorite so far.
What statement are you trying to make by mixing drag and beards?
When I first started being a drag performer, I loved my beard as  Ross and thought why compromise. Ruby was spawned with a beard and why change that. The mixing of the stereotypical feminine look with the stereotypical masculine look worked for me as a performer. Why should I have to do something because society says so? I took a lot of influence from several areas from the beautiful creatures that make the ‘Sink the Pink’ nights in London, to the Cabaret stunners all around the country to the artistic prowess of the Housewives of Birmingham and the #Manchesterqueens.
How do you feel about recent acknowledgements of different gender identities? 
About TIME, why should anyone be put in one of two boxes by society. There are an infinite amount of ‘boxes’ and people should be able to be who they want to be with THEIR life and jump in and out of whatever they want. Why label it? I feel some people have to compartmentalise to understand, but who cares what other people think, life is too short. Be the beautiful person you are, whatever that may be.
What would you say to someone that sees beards as a “men only” zone and would force us in to little gender boxes? 
Two words…. F**K YOU.
What words of wisdom and inspiration would you impart to anyone struggling with their idea of gender and how to present themselves? 
Be who ever you are and want to be. The people who care about you will love you for whatever you want. Just fill your life with love and positivity and you will be a very happy person leading a full life. I learned this the hard way. Ruby has shown and taught me a lot. I get so much love from strangers, friends and family so go on do your thing. The LGBTQ  community are a massive family across the world and will stand by each other regardless. Drop a friend a message tell them you’ll support them with anything big or small. express yourself! LOVE LOVE LOVE!
Thank you so much to the beautiful Ruby Rawbone! Stay bearded and stay beautiful, and keep up those words of positivity!

Recommend Your Barber for Totem Wolf!

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Our pals over at Totem Wolf are looking for barbers to stock their beard products!

If you’re a local barber in Manchester and you want to stock some quality beard oils, soaps and more, we can’t recommend Totem Wolf enough! We’ve even been gifted with our own, unique blend! So, if you feel that the oils on offer aren’t for you, drop a message. Perhaps you could have your own blend.

Not a barber yourself? No problem! There’s still an offer for you if you think your barber is interested in Totem Wolf products.

If you recommend a barber and they choose to stock Totem Wolf’s products you’ll be gifted with your own 30ml bottle of Blend 79 beard oil!

To recommend your barber, just drop Totem Wolf a message and get your barber to do the same. Then, if your barber says yes, we’ll say yes to gifting you with your free bottle of Blend 79!

So get recommending!

 

*currently UK only!

 

 

Post Launch – Totem Wolf

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Last week I was delighted to hear the Bristlr team had been invited to Totem Wolf’s Premium Beard Oil Launch. I couldn’t have said yes faster.

I left with a specially selected cake, my very own bespoke blend of beard oil and full of cheer (in part courtesy of the beautifully blended, beard oil inspired gin cocktails).

Take a look at all these beautiful beards!

Beautiful Beards

And that’s only a handful of them!

With a lovely welcome from Totem Wolf’s founder, Philip and a warm, fuzzy and friendly atmosphere, a great time was had by all! Over 100 samples of Blend 79, the latest scent by Totem Wolf, were given away. No one left empty handed!

And did I mention the gin cocktails? The Font Manchester created two cocktails, with ingredients found in Totem Wolf’s oils, specifically for the night. It might sound a little odd, drinking beard oil cocktails, but I couldn’t get enough of them!

The party may be over, but the gifts are still coming!

Beard Oil

Head over to Totem Wolf’s website before the 16th of June to get 25% the new Blend 79!

The Bristlr beard gang would like to send a huge thank you to Totem Wolf for the great party and the generous gifts! We look forward to enjoying more of your beard oil blends.

Thanks from your friends at Bristlr!

A Bristlr Success Story – Sheyleen & Bill

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We’re happy to report that we’ve been having success after success over here at Bristlr!

Our latest success story comes from Sheyleen, who’s met her bristly soulmate on Brisltr. We’re delighted to share their story, as told by Sheyleen:

13262161_10201949946906298_202386171_oI want to shoot my thanks your way, Bristlr! Met my soul mate and soon to be husband on your app last year.

I’m living in Rhode Island and my handsome bearded fella happened to be in Massachusetts. We started talking the day I liked his profile and haven’t gone a day without speaking since.

We’re planning our engagement for October of this year, and getting ready to find a place together by mid summer.

He is the most amazing person I’ve ever met and I’m beyond happy I joined Bristlr.

We wish you both nothing but the best, and congratulations on your engagement!

A Bristlr Success Story – Reinier & Emma

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We’ve had another heartwarming success on Bristlr! An unlikely match between Reinier in the Netherlands and Emma in Australia, and we couldn’t be happier.

Here’s Reinier’s story:

“After being an enthusiastic Bristlr user for a couple of months I matched with the most beautiful girl in Australia. Being Dutch myself I just thought “some lucky bastard is going to be her man some day.”

Thankfully she remained interested and we kept chatting. Not long after that we exchanged numbers and started calling each other every day. We called each other for hours on end, our longest call lasting for about 15 hours straight.

It didn’t take long to discuss the elephant in the room; namely the 14000 km between us…

She offered to come visit me around Easter and we were happy and excited! Unfortunately something came up at her work so she couldn’t make it. We had to reschedule for July.

Truth be told, I couldn’t wait that long and risk some bloke coming in and sweeping her, so I decided to take the plunge and go Down Under myself.

We booked my tickets while calling and the countdown timers were set for April 15th. The nerves didn’t set in until I was cleared by Australian Customs and the only thing standing in our way was a door leading out to the arrivals hall.”

Emma was delighted to finally meet Reinier:

“As soon as I saw him, I knew it was right. It was as if the missing pieces had fallen into place. I knew then and know now that he is the only man for me.

We have spent two amazing weeks together, although he wasn’t the biggest fan of the Gnomesville forest!

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I’ll be counting the days until we are together again; this time for good. Thanks Bristlr for helping us find each other!”

Reinier’s got some preparation before the pair can be together permanently:

“All that’s left for me  to do now is go back to the Netherlands and start wrapping things up with work and sell my house. The next plane ticket I buy will be one-way to Perth. Without Bristlr we would’ve never found each other across the globe, so you guys can take all the credit for this one!

Lots of love and gratitude, Emma & Reinier.”

We couldn’t be happier for you and we wish you nothing but joy. We’re so happy to have brought the two of your together, especially from so far away!

All the best from Bristlr!