Guest Post – 5 Rules for Dating With a Beard

Guest Blog 5 Rules For Dating With a Beard

Having a beard can make you look a lot more masculine. A beard also puts you into a dating niche that can work in your favour. There are many misconceptions surrounding men’s facial hair and women’s desires, but the bottom line is that beards can be sexy and a great asset to your personal style.

When you are dating, use these 5 rules to make sure your beard works for you.

Women Love Beards

There is a lot of mixed information when it comes to women’s beard preferences, but almost half of women like kissing men with beards. However less than 30% of men grow beards, so straight away by growing a beard the odds are on your side.

Confidence is really important when it comes to dating, and you need to see your beard as a big part of who you are. Do that and all the other rules are going to be a lot easier to follow.

Rule #1: Wear your beard with pride and confidence.

Keep It Together

Growing a beard is about a lot more than just letting your facial hair grow out. There used to be a whole industry dedicated to male facial hair in days gone by, and although it’s taken it’s time that industry is making a comeback.

If you want to have a strokeable beard, you need to put in the work. You’ll be needing a beard comb, some good clippers for maintenance among other things, and a daily beardcare ritual to top it off.

On top of styling and maintenance you’ll want to be keeping an eye out for stray bits of food – it happens, we all know it. No one wants to kiss a beard with food stuck in it!

Rule #2: Daily beard maintenance is a must!

Plan Your Beard Out

Much in the same way a person thinks about a hairstyle as a part of their fashion, a bearded man must look at his facial hair as a part of his overall style.

Whilst it might sound fun and easy to just grow out a great big bushy beard, with a huge greased up handlebar mustache, you might find that some people would prefer to be seen with someone well groomed. Your beard needs to fit with your partner’s style, as much as your own.

A great way to approach this is to make sure that your beard is a good fit for your face. There are a lot of great options for beard styles, and you will have no problem finding one that fits you perfectly. You might have to do a bit of experimenting with styles to start off, depending on how your beard grows.

It’s important to have a purpose, don’t just let a beard happen. Grow it with intention, groom it, style it, shape it.

Struggling to come up with a style of your own? Most high-street barbers will cater to beards these days, so why not ask their opinion?

Rule #3: Have a vision for your beard and make it happen. 

Maintenance!

Planning to keep that beard for a while? You’ll have to keep it in good shape! Which means buying quality shampooing and conditioning products.

The way you treat your facial hair is going to make a huge difference in how it feels to the touch and one of the biggest things that people love about beards is running their fingers through them.

If you don’t take care of your beard hair, it isn’t going to look right, nor will it feel great in your girlfriend’s hands.

Rule #4: Buy and use great hair care products on your beard.

Asset v. Liability

Your beard can be a big turn-on or a big turn-off, depending on how well you take care of it. So you have to make sure your beard is an asset that works for you, and not a liability.

If you’ve followed rules 1-4, then you’re beard’s going to be in a great place. But you’ve got to keep up that personal discipline, to keep that beard game strong.

Don’t be put off by the occasional off comment from your girlfriend either, no beard is going to be loved by a woman in the same way you love it.

Don’t be too put off by the occasional but of constructive criticism on your beard either, especially not from your partner (they’re going to be seeing it most regularly after all!). No one’s going to love your beard the way you do, so an outside opinion can sometimes help.

Rule #5: Love your beard and make it an asset that works for you.


This article was written by guest blogger, Victor Bertoni and edited by Bristlr’s Content and Community Manager Samuel Alexander.

A Proper #Lush Beard!

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I have a confession… I love Lush!

You might not think it, but Lush have a whole variety of products that are perfect for use with your beard! Even some of the products not designed for beard use.

So, I’ve put together a list of all the products that I’ve ever used in my beard, starting with (and then in no particular order)…

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Starting with the products that are actually meant for beard use. This was also the first product I ever used. My favourite thing about it? It’s quick, easy and I can use it in the shower for speedy use. It’s also great to be used on the rest of your face, for added cleanliness. It’ll leave you face and beard lovely, soft and fresh. It’ll also last ages! Like everything in Lush… Sometimes I feel like a bad customer for not needing to go in very often. Anyways, just use a tiny amount, you don’t need loads for each wash. Top tip: Use a small amount on a dry beard to style and add a touch of fragrance for the day, brilliant less harsh alternative to beard waxes and gels.

Great for double use, can be used for the hair on your head as well as your face! This is great for those of you with beards that might feel a little brittle or even a bit sharp (eek!), particularly if it’s quite short. It’s a moisturiser so expect your beard to feel lovely and soft, with a lovely uplifting scent! This one isn’t made for beards, but it’s always fun to get creative. Another one where less is more, especially given this one is really intended to be used on long hair rather than beards. Best used on a wet beard after towel drying to let the goodness sink in.

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Okay, first off this stuff smells AMAZING! Like actual custard. But don’t eat it. No tea, no shade, but it tastes terrible (compared to the scent). In defense of Lush, it wasn’t made for eating. This one was given to me as a gift from a Lush buddy (go and befriend people that work at Lush!!), so I thought I’d give it a go in my beard. Then I discovered I could smell it all day if I really concentrated. I’m sold. Again, made to be used in your hair, so it’ll make your hair feel lovely too. It’s great to use on a wet beard, it’ll make it a little more malleable for styling once dry. Don’t be put off using it on a dry beard though, just be aware that you’ll really need to rub it in otherwise it’ll show up quite clearly. It might make your beard feel a bit odd, sticky even, but it’ll definitely add thickness and has pretty good hold for keeping your style! Keep a brush handy for this one, you’ll want to brush it through (a regular hair brush will do, s’what I use!).

Who said you had to be satisfied with the colour of your beard as it is? With Lush Henna dyes you can spice up your life, and your beard, with a touch of red. A perfect Autumnal look to add a touch of colour, given how grey the skies are getting right now. There are a range of Lush Henna dyes to choose from. If you’ve got quite a light coloured beard naturally, you could go full on red with the lightest shade. Or, you could go the opposite way with the darkest shade, for a dark, mysterious look. The choice is yours!

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The last styling step is Lush’s very own moutsache wax! It’s easy to use and it’ll give you a strong hold that lasts all day. Best way to use it is to scrape it out with the top of your nail (otherwise you’ll find loads of it gets stuck under your nail), just a tiny amount will do. Rub it in to your fingertips and then style as you like. I like to pretty much glue my moustache down, helps keep it out of my mouth. But you can always curl it up, or let your imagination run wild! I also use this stuff in my beard to try to keep it tamed – I like to rub it in the twist my beard around, then let it go. Helps keep it all together. That’s really hard to describe so check the picture above to see what I mean. 

This is another great hair dressing, like Hair Custard, but sans eggs. I tried this one when I toyed with going vegan. Rest assured, everything in Lush is ethically sourced, but if you do want to avoid eggs this is a great alternative! It’s also a little bit lighter than the Hair Custard, both in consistency and colour – so it’ll add less weight but if you have a darker beard you’ll probably want to use a little less. You’ll get a whole different scent from the hair custard – lime for a burst of freshness and banana for touch of mellowness. Great for any mood!

  • Eyebrow Pencils

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“But wait, eyebrows aren’t beards!” Unless you think of your moustache as the eyebrow of the mouth? Didn’t see that curve ball coming, did you? I read this tip a long time ago that if you want a thicker looking moustache, an eyebrow pencil can help. The trouble is most eyebrow pencils are fragile and wooden like…well, a pencil. So when they start to wear down it can get a bit frustrating, and painful (wood can get sharp and splintery). Say no more to that little problem, Lush eyebrow pencils are more like a child’s crayon, and I couldn’t be happier. There are also a few shades for you to choose from. So you can either match your colour for a slightly thicker look, or go for a darker shade to take it all the way. I prefer a darker shade – for some reason my moustache is much lighter than the rest of my beard, so I prefer it to match. Heck, you can even use it on your eyebrows if you like!

Top tip: if you use the red shade, your skin might redden around your beard so try a colour supplement – I use Jackie Oats because I’m super pale. Just draw it thinly around your beard after applying the pencil, let it settle a bit, then gently rub it in to your skin away from your beard. 

PS. We’re aware most of your bearded guys don’t buy make up (maybe some of you do, that’s cool!). Lush is a completely judgement free zone, just in case you were worried. It’s also 2016, and times are changing. You do you. 

This and any of Lush’s other shampoo bars are great for beards! They’re a little less fiddly than a liquid shampoo, you just get your beard wet and rub them on. Try to avoid rubbing it directly on your lips, though most Lush products are great for sensitive skin the nettle and peppermint infusion might be a tad too much for that area. Just aim for the chin. This one’s great for adding shine and stimulating your hair follicles, so expect your beard to start looking much happier and healthier. Needless to say, this is great on your hair too!

Sorry I couldn’t get you a picture for all of those, but Lush has plenty of great models on their website to show off for you! Anyways, once you’re done pampering your beard, get out there and share it with the world!

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There are LOADS of products on offer in Lush, all ethically sourced (and the vast majority are vegan) and natural. So you can rest assured your beard, and face (and the rest of you, if you get side tracked by other products) are in good hands. Chances are if you’ve seen a product for use with hair in Lush, it’ll work just as well in your beard. But always ask the staff, just in case. Also, if you’ve found a Lush product for beard use let us know – you could be featured in our blog!

You can ask for a test pot of just about any product in Lush. So why not ask and experiment with what works for your beard? You too, could have a proper Lush beard!

Bristlr on Dating Advice

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Head on over to Dating Advice because Bristlr is being featured!

If you want to delve more in to our story, right from the roots, head on over and have a read.

Here’s the short version of the wonderful things Dating Advice had to say about us:

When it comes to scruff, some daters can’t get enough. For beard-wearers and beard-lovers everywhere, Bristlr has cultivated a niche dating network of hundreds of thousands of singles. These people come together in mutual admiration for a whiskered chin. You register by answering the oh-so-important question: “Do you have a beard?” No need to state your gender or fill out a lengthy bio — singles can immediately start rating beards and messaging users for free. Begun in 2014 as a joke, Bristlr connects men with facial hair to dates who love tickling kisses. Today, fun-loving singles worldwide seek love and relationships in this quirky network.

Be sure to read the whole article! You can learn all about our founder, our success stories and all about our team!

Thanks for the shout out Dating Advice!

Beard Elitism #DontDoIt

Beard Elitism

It sounds like a joke, right? But it’s not.

Let’s not pretend we haven’t all seen posts on social media about beards, THEY’RE EVERYWHERE! And some of them aren’t too friendly. I’m not saying we need wrapping in cotton wool, or big bushy beards. But as individuals we can do something to make the world a better place to live in…and be less horrible on social media.

Okay, so lets talk Beard Elitism – it sucks. So much.

Do you remember when you first started growing a beard? When you fell in love with the hair growing out of your face? It was great, right? Then the trend on social media set in (which we at Bristlr have a lot to thank for, really).

Some of you will have stuck to your guns, you had a beard and you loved it. Some of you decided to back out and get rid of the beard, because trends can be a pain to keep up with, which is entirely your prerogative. But then there was heat from both sides for some of the more folicly challenged, and it was kind of unfair.

First, lets look in to the things that affect beard growth.

Genetics! Literally beyond anyone’s control. So what if someone can’t grow a beard because of their genes? Maybe they didn’t want one in the first place. Leave ’em be. “Supplements,” you say? Yeah, have fun with those side effects…

Stress! A good diet and plenty of sleep help out a lot with beard growth. So when someone’s particularly stressed and struggling to do either of those things, it’s going to have an effect on their beard. You’re going to kick someone when they’re down by berating the beard that in your eyes isn’t good enough? Feel good about yourself? You shouldn’t.

Exercise! Some of us are just too damn busy, and hitting the gym after a long day at work isn’t always top of the priority list. So cut us some slack and take your opinions elsewhere.

Those are just three things, and they’re all sort of beyond control. Notice how I put genetics top of the list though? No one can control that, not even you, with your opinions.

It might seem like I’m getting a little irritable, right? Here’s the thing – I’m fairly lucky. Despite being plagued with mental health issues (things just got personal up in here), having very little time to exercise and, let’s be honest, a terrible diet, I’m somehow blessed with (what many would consider) a “pretty good” beard. Genetics. Despite that, every now and then someone will happily point out that my beard’s looking whispy, a bit thin or a little patchy.

First off, thanks, that makes me feel great. Second, why did you have to say anything anyway? Third, remember that bit about mental health issues and kicking someone when they’re down? Yeah. You just did all that. And I didn’t even ask for an opinion. Go you.

You can say I’m taking this a little too seriously, but let’s be honest if you’re going out of your way to upset people, you need to have a word with yourself.

It’s not just beards either – all over social media people are commenting on all aspects of other peoples’ bodies. Like it’s their right to tell someone else how they should look. It isn’t.

We’re all about the beards here at Bristlr. So we do what we do to keep the beard community happy, whatever the shape, size and thickness of their beards. But that doesn’t mean we don’t care about everyone else! So, we say; Beard Elitism #DontDoIt. But lets lay off on judging people for their bodies and they way they present themselves.  Whether you have a big, bushy beard, or a little bit of bristle, you do you, and let others’ do the same.