Guest Post – 5 Rules for Dating With a Beard

Guest Blog 5 Rules For Dating With a Beard

Having a beard can make you look a lot more masculine. A beard also puts you into a dating niche that can work in your favour. There are many misconceptions surrounding men’s facial hair and women’s desires, but the bottom line is that beards can be sexy and a great asset to your personal style.

When you are dating, use these 5 rules to make sure your beard works for you.

Women Love Beards

There is a lot of mixed information when it comes to women’s beard preferences, but almost half of women like kissing men with beards. However less than 30% of men grow beards, so straight away by growing a beard the odds are on your side.

Confidence is really important when it comes to dating, and you need to see your beard as a big part of who you are. Do that and all the other rules are going to be a lot easier to follow.

Rule #1: Wear your beard with pride and confidence.

Keep It Together

Growing a beard is about a lot more than just letting your facial hair grow out. There used to be a whole industry dedicated to male facial hair in days gone by, and although it’s taken it’s time that industry is making a comeback.

If you want to have a strokeable beard, you need to put in the work. You’ll be needing a beard comb, some good clippers for maintenance among other things, and a daily beardcare ritual to top it off.

On top of styling and maintenance you’ll want to be keeping an eye out for stray bits of food – it happens, we all know it. No one wants to kiss a beard with food stuck in it!

Rule #2: Daily beard maintenance is a must!

Plan Your Beard Out

Much in the same way a person thinks about a hairstyle as a part of their fashion, a bearded man must look at his facial hair as a part of his overall style.

Whilst it might sound fun and easy to just grow out a great big bushy beard, with a huge greased up handlebar mustache, you might find that some people would prefer to be seen with someone well groomed. Your beard needs to fit with your partner’s style, as much as your own.

A great way to approach this is to make sure that your beard is a good fit for your face. There are a lot of great options for beard styles, and you will have no problem finding one that fits you perfectly. You might have to do a bit of experimenting with styles to start off, depending on how your beard grows.

It’s important to have a purpose, don’t just let a beard happen. Grow it with intention, groom it, style it, shape it.

Struggling to come up with a style of your own? Most high-street barbers will cater to beards these days, so why not ask their opinion?

Rule #3: Have a vision for your beard and make it happen. 

Maintenance!

Planning to keep that beard for a while? You’ll have to keep it in good shape! Which means buying quality shampooing and conditioning products.

The way you treat your facial hair is going to make a huge difference in how it feels to the touch and one of the biggest things that people love about beards is running their fingers through them.

If you don’t take care of your beard hair, it isn’t going to look right, nor will it feel great in your girlfriend’s hands.

Rule #4: Buy and use great hair care products on your beard.

Asset v. Liability

Your beard can be a big turn-on or a big turn-off, depending on how well you take care of it. So you have to make sure your beard is an asset that works for you, and not a liability.

If you’ve followed rules 1-4, then you’re beard’s going to be in a great place. But you’ve got to keep up that personal discipline, to keep that beard game strong.

Don’t be put off by the occasional off comment from your girlfriend either, no beard is going to be loved by a woman in the same way you love it.

Don’t be too put off by the occasional but of constructive criticism on your beard either, especially not from your partner (they’re going to be seeing it most regularly after all!). No one’s going to love your beard the way you do, so an outside opinion can sometimes help.

Rule #5: Love your beard and make it an asset that works for you.


This article was written by guest blogger, Victor Bertoni and edited by Bristlr’s Content and Community Manager Samuel Alexander.

My Beard Smells Like Jelly Beans

This isn’t a sponsored post. Though it should be for all the praise I’ll be writing.

I should mention that Beard Lab (the makers of the beard oil I’m talking about in this post) do advertise on Bristlr. That’s actually how I first heard of their products. One of my jobs here at BristlrHQ is to manually approve each and every ad which runs on the desktop version of Bristlr. Whilst doing this a few weeks ago I found myself with the biggest smile in the world whilst approving an advert titled “Jelly Bean beard oil!”.

Oh yes.

I ordered a bottle out of pure instinct. You can too, here, if you’re feeling the urge. And I am happy to report it’s every bit as good as you’re dreaming it is.

I use beard oil right after a nice hot shower and a towel dry. Three or four drops is plenty.

This oil smells so good.

There’s an initial strong and sweet smell of fruity sugar, which makes way to more of a fresh floral scent. It’s an interesting transition, and it works really well preventing the sweetness from being too overwhelming. The scent settles into a very sweet and light citrusy flavour which lasts at least all day.

I’ve found with a lot of the more floral oils, there’s a tendency for them to smell stale as the day wears on on. None of that here. Or if there is, the sweet notes cover them well.

If you’re like me and a fan of the very-sweet, I’d highly recommend the lime and pomegranate “Hades” from Bath Sabbath, and the divine Chocolate Orange oil from Beards in Arms.

I should also mention, sadly, that the Honey Bourbon Beard Balm from TreeBeard does not make your bead smell like you just poured honey bourbon in it. Much to my disappointment. It’s a really great balm…. but still. It’s way more cedarwood than bourbon.

If you have any oil recommendations, please do share them in the comments!

And if you make stuff you think Bristlr users would be interested in, you can try our ad platform for free at admanager.bristlr.com. We’ll happily give you some free impressions to trial the service, just send me an email (john@bristlr.com). And don’t suck. We don’t accept paid reviews, and whilst you’re welcome to send us samples (we do like free stuff), it won’t make any difference to how much we love you.

How to Temporarily Try Out The Merbeard

We noticed you enjoyed our Merbeards last week, so here’s a guide on how to temporarily achieve one!

What’s a Merbeard I hear you ask? A Merbeard is the art of dyeing one’s beard a funky colour, but shades of green or blue work best. Red could also work, if you’re going for that Disney look.

Like many beard owners I was intrigued by the Merbeard but not sure I was willing to bleach and dye my beard. Bleach doesn’t wash out and it can have some nasty effects on hair, from split ends to the dreaded snap-off. After losing an entire fringe to bleach back in 2013 (since recovered), I’ve been a bit wary of the stuff ever since.

It seemed like the Merbeard was beyond my grasp. That was until I met my current boyfriend, who’s very keen to go all the way with his Merbeard obsession. We found a temporary method to test out the Merbeard – Hair chalk!

I’ll warn you now; this is messy stuff! I would strongly recommend having some make up wipes at hand! I went with Derma V10 Chalk It Up, which cost me a whopping £0.99 from Bodycare! Alternatively, Kara McGrath recommends simply using artists soft pastels.

Okay, so your first step is to not wear anything you like. Get out the mess clothes. You might also want to don some latex gloves. Now get that beard wet (and your hair too if you want to go all out)! Because beard hair can be a bit coarser compared to the hair on top of your head, it’s pretty much impossible to get this stuff on to a dry beard. If you’ve just beard oiled up and don’t want to waste, maybe try this out later.

It’s so easy to get this stuff on your skin, yet so difficult to get off; accuracy is key. What you want to do is pull sections of your beard taut and then using your other hand run the chalk along this section (on the underside too for the best effect). You might need to do this a few times before the colour starts to show. Don’t panic if it looks dark (unless you’re beard is a bright colour, in which case it’s probably already showing), in natural light once your beard is dry it will be pretty vibrant.

Okay, so you’ve got a colourful streak in your beard now! You can stop there if you like, maybe that’s all you want. If you want to go all the way, start segmenting your beard and repeating that step of running the chalk along segments of beard held taut.

Once your whole beard is covered you might need to fill out the edges. Gently, without holding your beard, fill in the edges on your cheeks in a downward motion. This is probably when you’ll start getting the stuff on your skin. Do that same downward motion with a wipe and hope for the best, there really is no exact science to that, but hopefully only the skin underneath your beard will be covered.

The moustache can be tricky, depending on how much you have. For a thick one, it’s pretty much the same as your beard; pull taut, run chalk, colour. For a thinner moustache you might want to try very gently adding a bit of chalk to the centre then rubbing it along with your finger or one of those little eyebrow pencil brushes (they’re cheap in bodycare too!).

Almost done! Time for some clean up; you’ll probably need a fresh wipe for your face. Remember, downward motions towards the beard! Maybe your sink of shower needs a clean too… Don’t worry, it comes off easily!

So the tricky part is setting the colour. Heat can be helpful, and if you’ve got a tiny straightening iron that you can use on your beard then you’re set! Otherwise, crack out the hair dryer! After it’s all dry try some beard balm or wax to help set that stuff in place, wash your hands (it’s still going to come off a bit) and you’re set! Go stand in some natural light, get on Instagram and pick a good filter!

Top tip: If you want to avoid staining your neck, leave a layer underneath your beard uncoloured. Remember, this stuff is temporary and only to test out the Merbeard so it doesn’t have to look perfect, but chances are you won’t see the uncoloured under layer.

8 Tips on How to Maintain the Longevity and Health of Your Beard

  1. Patience is a virtue.  A truly epic beard is the product of self-restraint and great beard care. When you first start growing, resist the urge to trim or style, and leave it untouched for the first 3-6 weeks. (you have to go through hell before you get to heaven), this will allow the hairs to grow in evenly (some grow faster than others), and help you pick a style that suits its length and thickness.
  2. Match your beard to your face.  Like all great gentleman of the world, a beard should be in-tune with its surrounding environment, this is crucial the first month of growth, choose a final style that complements your face shape. Your beard will look better, and so will you.
  3. Learn how and when to trim.  Pruning is essential to a well-groomed beard—even if you plan on growing it out. Invest in a quality trimmer or really good scissors, and find the right technique to suit your master plan.  Always start off with just trimming the fly-away hairs and stray dogs.  Less is best at first.
  4. Cleanliness is next to godliness.  This is especially important in the early stages of growth, when environmental properties and skin cells can exacerbate the itchiness. Wash your beard about 3 times each week with an excellent beard wash, (there are many on the market to choose from), and pat it dry: An overzealous toweling can lead to frizz and split ends.
  5. Beard oil is the key to it all.  Nothing tames a beard like regular use of beard oil. At the Famous Beard Oil Co. we have many varieties to choose from, in a range of manly scents, (Nautilus, Urban Kerouac, Highlander, Monk’s Dream, Spicy Citrus, Woodsy Breeze, Ol’ 55 Blend, Savant Fusion, Sage Da Vinci and Clean Slate), but all of our wonderful beard oils will condition hairs to make them softer, shinier and aid in getting rid of the dreaded itch. Be sure to use a beard oil that uses pure essential oils, as this has the perfect antibacterial properties in them.  Visit famousbeardoil.com for more information on our top of the line beard oils.
  6. Teach and train your beard.  A regular trim will maintain your chosen shape, but it’s not the only way to keep your beard in line. A daily rubdown with a comb or boar hair brush will wrangle stubborn hairs, training them to grow in a downward direction. You can even up the ante with a good beard balm which lends some extra sculpting power while taming any flyways.
  7. You are what you eat.  Your beard is made from protein and fat, but it’s also heavily reliant on Vitamins B5, B3, and B9. That means lean meats, nuts, egg yolks, milk, and plenty of leafy greens. If you’re seriously committed, you can also round out your diet with a good manly supplement.
  8. Don’t forget your stache.  Growing an epic beard also means growing a mustache. To keep it looking neat, trim the area around your philtrum (the area under your nose), and if you choose to, the area right above your upper lip with a pair of grooming scissors, and keep it naturally sculpted with a medium-hold wax, you can get this anywhere.

 

Eric D. Lough is the founder & craftsman of the Famous Beard Oil Company.  All of their award winning beard oils are made to order using the highest quality carrier oils and pure essential oils with exceptional and modish scents.

“Your Beard Deserves This!”

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How to Get That Perfect Bushy Beard

Guest post from Modern Mane.

A beard requires care and maintenance if you want it to look good. Much like a sports car, your beard needs frequent upkeep if you want it to stay at its best. Here are some tips for putting together a beard routine that will keep your mane bushy and thick, instead of scraggly and itchy.

Your beard can and will attract bacteria. Food particles, sweat, and so on can cause your beard to become smelly and disgusting. To avoid that unpleasant outcome, use a light shampoo to thoroughly rinse your beard. Frequent shampooing can strip out the natural oils in your beard and will cause your beard to dry out, so we recommend adding beard oil to your routine.

Beard oil conditions your beard and the underlying skin to prevent dryness and flakes. The best beard oils contain jojoba oil which moisturises at the deepest level of your skin. Olive oil is another super ingredient for its antibacterial and moisturising properties. Modern Mane all-natural beard oil contains both olive and jojoba oil, along with a convenient dropper for easy application.

When you’ve grown out your beard, you’ll probably feel an urge to stroke and feel its bushy awesomeness. Even though it’s fun to do, be aware that playing with your beard too frequently can cause it to thin out. But don’t despair:  A diet high in protein can help strengthen your hair follicles so that less falls out. The high protein diet will also promote healthier and quicker beard growth when you start growing out your mane.

Depending on your desired beard length, you may want to do some trimming. But if you want a sizeable beard, don’t start trimming until you’ve let your scruff grow out reasonably. Premature trimming can cause your beard to look thin and patchy instead of bushy and thick. When you do start trimming, the best bet is an electric trimmer. If you trim your neck, be aware that you should leave an inch or so of facial hair below the neck line. Any less and your beard will look off due to the stark contrast. Unless you’re going for the George Lucas look, this is to be avoided.

If you want to style your beard, you’ll need a quality comb. There are a number of great hand-made combs but to find the best comb for you, you’ll have to consider your beard length and type. As a rule of thumb, longer beards require wider teethed combs. Stay away from plastic combs if you can and invest in horn or wood based product instead. Your follicles will thank you and you won’t have to endure your beard hair painfully being caught on the teeth of a shoddy comb.

For optimal beard aesthetics, a beard wax is a must. You can apply beard wax by hand and style as necessary. For longer beards, you’re going to want a medium-hold product. Beard wax doesn’t just keep your hair from looking scraggly; it also acts as a conditioner to keep your hair from drying out. Dry beards are bad.